Around this age – most of us are either flirting with the idea of marriage and babies or have already embarked on the journey to both. We’ve spent our late teenage years and very early twenties just learning how to date and being in relationships that weren’t too serious. NOW – you know more about yourself, you know what you like, what you’re looking for, what you’ll tolerate, and what relationships mean to you. But what the heck do you do now?!
The reality is, at this age no one really has it all together yet. When it comes to dating, you must make a very important decision – either you wait for the person you love to get it together or you live and let life work. While I am a firm believer that what is meant for you, will always be for you – I totally understand feeling like you’re a “relationship person” stuck in a realm of temporary situations.
For example, I’ve loved the same person since I was 16 years old. In the past 9 years, our relationship has seen different phases and experiences. Our lives never quite aligned the way we’d like – I moved away, we’ve dated other people, gone periods of time without speaking, but that hasn’t changed the love we’ve had for one another. As we both continue to work on fulfilling our dreams at this stage in our life, sometimes the puzzle pieces just don’t fit.
In a perfect world, we’d fall in love and it would all be so easy after that. There would be no complications, confusion, or stress when it comes to dating. Unfortunately, for those of you who think relationships should just be easy when it is “meant to be”, you are sadly mistaken my friend. This is the time to continue learning, growing, and determining what YOU want. Relationships that turn into lasting marriages must be able to withstand the toughest of tough situations. At this age, some of us just aren’t prepared to handle that and I promise you it’s totally okay!
So the next time you are swiping through Soul Swipe, Tinder, or Plenty of Fish – remember, you’ve got to put yourself out there, BUT the good stuff (marriage and babies) happens when the time is right. No one knows when the time is coming, so we must love ourselves and continuing to grow so that when the time comes.. WE READY!