Get ready lovebugs because we’re going to shed light on one of the biggest struggles for millennials. This week, we are talking about distinguishing the relationship between,”if it’s meant to be, it will be” and “if you want it, go get it.”
The saying, “if it’s meant to be, it will be” is one that you have probably heard several times before and goes back almost a century. Many of us have been taught by our families, social media, celebrities, etc. that we must grind hard until we get whatever we want. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’ve worked so hard and what you desire still doesn’t seem to work out? We run ourselves into the ground, testing our limits, telling ourselves that we haven’t achieved what we want because we haven’t done enough to get it. This is where the two sayings align.
Anyone that knows me will tell you that I have coined the phrase, “I’m stressed!” Most people assume that because my personality can be a bit dramatic (just a tad, lol) that when I say I am stressed, it is not to be taken seriously. However, typically when I use the phrase it is because I am wracking my brain trying to determine if a situation is “meant to be” or if I should be working even harder to change my specific circumstance at any given time.
While I truly believe things that are meant to be will be and what is for you will always be for you, I also believe it is your job to proclaim a goal and put the work in. You must additionally task yourself with knowing when to evaluate a situation, take accountability, and assess if you’ve done all you can. If the answer is yes, it’s time to take a step back and walk away knowing you did your best.
Whether it pertains to love, work, or just life – too often we look at the glass half empty, getting upset because something didn’t work out the way we planned. In opposition, we must view the glass half full and consider the possibility that what we wanted didn’t go the way we planned because there is an even greater opportunity waiting ahead.
Put the work the work people, but trust that all things happen for a reason and the ups and downs of life are inevitable. Remember – you’ll waste too much of your time and energy by not allowing the chips to fall where they may.